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‘Freeze’ Words

Did you realize that there are certain words you say that can keep you ‘frozen’ in a certain situations? Can affect the way others perceive you?

These specific words - which I call ‘freeze phrases’ and they are also known as ‘victim talk’ - leak out into our everyday world and we are not even aware of it any more because they’ve become part of our very existence. Yet others are aware of them … and we can tell – if only we take notice – because of their reaction to us! They look around when we’re talking to them, their eyes glaze over and they have a vacant expression “looking off into the distance somewhere”, in fact they’ve switched off “BECAUSE WE’RE GOING ON AGAIN …”. They’ve STOPPED LISTENING!

The words we use could be a reason as to why we feel certain people switch off when we talk to them. Ah-ha! Recognise this situation?

‘Freeze words/Victim Talk’ are dangerous to our wellbeing. WHY? Because our words AFFIRM our outcome - words are CREATIVE.

When talking to someone or declining an offer of some kind, using certain phrases can denote negativity, turn people off us, stopping us from being asked again or them giving us compliments or even offering to help us. So what are those words, those so-simple yet so-dangerous words? Well some that come immediately to mind are:

“yes, but …”

“if only …”

“maybe …”

“we’ll see …”

“I hope so …”

“I’ll try …”

“ I can’t …”

You’ll probably recognise some of THESE phrases because you remember other people using them. However, WHICH phrases do YOU USE? Think about it. Ask a friend if they’ve heard YOU using any of these words – IF YOU DARE.

It’s important that we recognise which ‘freeze words/victim talk’ we use personally, for if we don’t recognise them, how can we change them?

Being consciously aware of them means that we CAN change them.

SO what do we do WHEN WE RECOGNISE OUR ‘freeze words/‘victim talk? Simple – we change them into assertive positive words.

How about using:

“However …” OR

“Yet …” OR even

“And …”

By using THESE assertive/positive type of words (which I admit do feel peculiar at first) we are keeping the listener’s interest open.

More importantly – if we continue to use these ‘freeze words/victim talk’ we are keeping ourselves locked into certain negative, passive, submissive behaviours – and others perceive us as that way.

So changing the way you talk - just changing a few simple phrases - can change the way others perceive you. And if others start to perceive us different, they respond to us differently AND THAT has an effect on the way we perceive ourselves too – in our mind’s eye.

Should you wish to use any of the techniques or procedures described on these pages, you accept full

responsibility for your own emotional, psychological, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing and health.

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